It’s a common question at the root of many people not even trying. They have a goal or a dream, their heart races and they have images of what it would be like to succeed, what it would look like if their dream came true. It’s beautiful. Doing something that you love, your passion, for the rest of your life. AND you get paid for it. Then they take the first tentative steps and then someone laughs. “YOU’RE GOING TO WHAT? BUT YOU’RE….” And suddenly the first unplanned obstacle rears its head. And you question yourself. What if my best just isn’t good enough?
Indeed, many ‘reality’ TV shows thrive on this. Sitting there mocking and gawking as some person gives it their all because they believe in their talent but it falls wickedly short of public opinion. Then there’s the transformation shows, of people and houses. “We took this dumpy hausfrau and then we transformed her physically and mentally in to something unrecognisable to her friends and family…” For the better? Perhaps. I don’t feel comfortable with the message the children receive when they don’t recognise their own mother (ref to US show ‘The Swan’). “What about this house/this room? We’ve taken it and changed it in 24 hours. What do you think?” Gasp! Yes, the shows seem set a standard that says unless your undertaking is nothing short of Herculean in time and scale, why bother? (His original Greek name is Heracles, by the way.) They’ve set a false standard that has us being unimpressed with ‘normal’. Working with a client recently they were working with the affirmation “Go big or go home”. As a consequence, she was losing money. She was seeking out opportunities that didn’t fit with her customer profile nor was she taking the ‘little’ actions, the accumulation of which leads to the tipping point of any great breakthrough.
But what are we really afraid of? This is a quote from Maryanne WIlliamson from “A Course In Miracles”: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us most. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and famous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that people won’t feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in all of us. And when we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
To you, your best will always be good enough provided you can put your hand on your heart and say “Yes, I gave it my best at the time.” I say at the time because new knowledge and circumstances will arrive that may change your perception of the event. If you are doing something that you love, do it because you love it and be your own judge, set your own level of success. If you choose to hand over judgement to someone else, listen without prejudice and make sure that the judge is someone that you respect. “Keep away from those who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you believe that you too can become great.” Mark Twain.